I often ponder at the decisions people make; because an assessment of their decisions can give you a deeper understanding of the person.
But the decision that so many people make, that I am unable to get a grasp on is, to undervalue and under prioritize their family time. I am not talking about only those with kids. It is the single woman or man caught up in a busy social life not valuing their parents; it is the newly together couple not making time for their siblings or the married person placing more importance on Friday night work drinks than getting home to spend time with their spouse.
A sideline to this is I feel, a matter of manners; punctuality to be precise. Often these same people not only undervalue their family but they are blatantly rude to them as well. A pre-arranged meeting time for a business contact will be strictly adhered to; turn up late to a job interview and you can kiss any chance you had of getting it goodbye; don’t get to the airport on time, consider the plane gone without you; sell some shares moments too late, the difference between a happy client and an unhappy one.
But a dinner with your wife; your nephew’s birthday party; your grandmother’s afternoon tea or brunch with friends is seemingly not deemed important enough for many, to be punctual. Frankly being late is just plain rude. We all know that unforeseen circumstances can ruin the best laid plans, but I am referring to the habitually late. We all have those friends or relatives who ALWAYS turn up late and employ a number of excuses. But if it is a regular occurrence the problem is the person and their disregard for common courtesy.
So those people in our life that we take for granted, the ones that will drop everything to help us out if we are admitted to hospital, the ones that will loan us their last dollar to feed our kids, the ones that hold our hands and pat our backs during emotional turmoil THOSE people deserve just as much respect and consideration as mere acquaintances. They deserve a whole lot more but equal measure is a good start.
In trying to understand the people in the world around me I see this happen all too regularly and am still at a loss to explain it; so maybe if we think about our own part in this phenomenon and ensure we show the respect to our loved ones they deserve, by valuing their time as much as our own, life will be sweeter for all.